Last year was not my best year in keeping my blog updated. It was a busy year with rough patches. Politics and social justice occupied much of my mind, and health issues and attempting to simply get through each day occupied the rest.
I feel like since 2016 has, in many ways, been a terrible year (just ask all of the internet), I would share with you pieces of our year that have been either positive or a platform for learning and growing. Yes there were some yuuge disappointments, but 2016 gave us Hamilton and we learned that Coffee consumption has been proven to help curtail cancer and suicide rates. So it wasn't all horrible.
I present to you, my 2016 in blurbs and pictures:
We rang in 2016 with our favorite friends! They moved away 5 years ago and we look forward to this long weekend with them all year long.
|Little K and his favorite friends.|
I took a little time and went full introvert for a while. I quit my CrossFit gym, I began running and lifting on my own, and then I quit those too. Fitness-wise it was a disaster; but mental health-wise it was wonderful for my soul to just listen to my own thoughts and sit with myself. I think the only thing of note for March is how handsome my sweet Little K looked on Easter.
I took Mr. B to a Zac Brown Band concert for his birthday and it was great! He enjoyed it and I hope he felt celebrated.
Mr. B taught Little K some basic gun safety, and let him shoot for the very first time under his very close supervision.
Little K lost his very first tooth at school, and then we got to spend some a super fun day at Relay for Life in my hometown with my best friend and her kids (including her band new baby).
|Happy Birthday, Mr. B!|
|First gun safety lesson.|
|2nd generation of friends.|
|Sweet baby snuggles.|
Little K and I made May-Day baskets for our neighbors. He botched the delivery by screaming from across the street, "I put flowers on your porch!!", but the neighbors loved it nonetheless.
We nearly lost our sweet Daisy girl on Mother's Day, when she woke up not being able to use the back half of her body. I spent all day laying beside her on the floor, crying. With some loving care from her veterinarian, medication, chiropractic adjustments, and some acupuncture, she has fully recovered and is as spunky as ever.
I learned that one can get a gallon of cold brew coffee from the best coffee shop in town, which was a definite high point for the year.
Also in May we celebrated this sweet little town's lovely local holiday. Mr. B and I helped with Little K's class float for the parade, we enjoyed the carnival, and best of all, my mom came for the weekend to join in the fun. A bonus was the float on which we worked so hard won 1st place in People's Choice!
Little K finished Kindergarten and we were all thankful for such a great year with an incredible teacher. To celebrate the end of school, our little family spent a long weekend in Omaha. While there we went to the Henry Dorley Zoo, watched The StormChasers play at Werner Park, at ice cream at eCreamery, and played laser tag and miniature golf.
|Happy May Day!|
|Daisy getting acupuncture.|
|Last day of Kindergarten.|
|Spinning barrel ride|
|Little K was so excited about his new stuffed polar bear.|
Little K broke through some giant barriers and learned to swim on his own. He has had quite the fear of water his whole life, so it was a very proud moment for all of us when he jumped off a diving board and swam in the deep end without assistance.
My best friend and her littles came to visit and we had a fun, chaotic weekend.
|No story here, but I love this picture of my handsome husband and our babies.|
|Can you say ornery?|
Mr. B and I took a vacation to an all-inclusive resort in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico. We had an amazing time! It was just the right combination of relaxation and activity. We swam, drank, ate, drank, ate, drank, ate, got massages, swam, drank, ate, went snorkeling, watched a Mexican Reggae band, hung out in downtown Playa for an afternoon, shopped, swam, drank, and ate. It was wonderful!
To end the month, we had another visit from our favorite friends!
|Leaving on a jet plane!|
|He's seriously so handsome.|
|Love love love|
|The resort was so beautiful.|
Mr. B and I celebrated our 12th anniversary with a lovely dinner date (our vacation was our big celebration). I am so lucky to have a him. I don't tell him enough how great he is and how thankful I am for his love, support, and hard work. I won the husband lottery for sure.
I had plenty of asshole parenting moments all year.
I got some beautiful and meaningful words tattooed on my left foot. It hurt like you would not believe, but I'm in love with how it turned out!
Little K started 1st grade and I don't know when he got so big. He should still be in diapers, right?
Also we finally finished the remodeling of our guest bathroom. And by we, I mean Mr. B.
We ended the month with a lovely weekend in a cabin by a lake with my in-laws.
|12 years, wedding day, newly dating.|
|Happy 12th Anniversary!|
|I took him out for doughnuts, so I'm the asshole.|
|Ooooh la la!|
|He had so much fun!|
September began with a trip to the emergency room for a ruptured cyst and the worst pain I've ever had in my life. I'm thankful my sweet friend and coworker insisted on driving me to the emergency room, where Mr. B left met us. My PCOS had finally reached a place I could no longer handle and I scheduled a complete hysterectomy for October.
I spent a wonderful day with my friend Ashley, and her mom and sister at a local arts and crafts fair.
We went to my sister's for my nephew's 9th birthday weekend, Little K started piano lessons, we visited our favorite friends for a weekend, and some of my local friends threw a going away dinner for my uterus and ovaries.
|Pedicure from my 3 year-old niece|
|I love that they got to spend so much time together this year!|
|First piano lesson.|
|Adios, lady bits!! #byefelicia|
We went back to my sister's for my niece's 4th birthday weekend, and then I had surgery on the 18th. Before the surgery, I panicked and binged for 2 solid weeks, and came very close to cancelling the surgery because of my anxiety. However my multiple cyst-ruptures each week and the amount of pain medication I had to take just to get through each day was not a pattern my mind or body could maintain. The surgery wound up going very smoothly, and my mom was able to come help for 2 weeks, which was a Godsend. I could tell very quickly that the introduction of the proper amounts of hormones through Hormone Replacement Therapy was going to be amazing. Even through the post-surgical pain, I began to feel better than I had in my entire adult life.
Little K was Harry Potter for Halloween (he and I have been reading the books together, and he's quickly becoming as obsessed as his mother), I picked up a new doodling hobby, and Little K's parent-teacher conference taught us that he is reading and performing well beyond his age.
|Pouring through a Captain Underpants book.|
November was tough. The election made things heated and I had a very hard time understanding how the very same people who thought that baking a cake for a gay wedding was supporting gay marriage, but voting for a racist was not supporting racism. I lost friends, had online arguments, and then had my heart broken by this county. But then I realized how privileged I am to have had to wait so long for something this big to have my heart ache in this way, because there are people who are failed and forgotten and misjudged and under-represented each and every day. I have learned to have hope because there are so many people like me, and very unlike me, who have chosen to stand together to fight for what is right. My choice is to battle with kindness and protest the injustices I see, but to first teach my son to be a better man than what will soon be modeled for him through this country's leadership (and I use the word leadership very loosely).
Also in November I made a huge decision and decided to leave the vet clinic and go back to doing hair in January. I will be self-employed and will set my own hours -- it just seemed like the right decision for my and for our family. It is a big leap of faith and an sizable investment to get started, but I am excited to revisit this passion!
The day before Thanksgiving, we were traveling to my parents' home and hit a deer going 70 MPH. Mr. B's beloved truck was totaled, but thankfully we were all unharmed. Our Ruby jumped across Little K to shield him from danger the second the impact happened; she wouldn't leave his lap until we assured her that everything was okay.
Thanksgiving was spent with my family and a rental car, my mom took some beautiful family photos, and I was able to spend the Saturday after Thanksgiving with my mom and sister for our annual Christmas shopping trip.
|Again, no story, I just love my little guy.|
|Still with her.|
|November 9th Mood.|
|Announcing KB Hair and Design, coming soon!!|
|I love him so much my heart could explode.|
|My favorite day of the whole year!|
We celebrated Little K's 7th birthday with a Harry Potter-themed family party, and by taking him and a few friends to play Laser Tag in a neighboring town. I can hardly believe my little premature baby who came out fighting is now a sassy, sarcastic, hilarious 7 year old!
Little K and I baked and delivered christmas cookies to our neighbors, and it was quite possibly our snowiest delivery yet!
Mr. B and I also introduced him to some of our favorite Christmas movies: Elf, The Santa Clause, Home Alone, and Home Alone 2.
I completely lost control of any healthy eating I had been attempting, but tried to find humor in the situation anyway.
I worked my last day at the vet clinic (aside from the Saturdays here and there I will help fill in for in the future), and it was bittersweet. I am looking forward to the next chapter, but it was hard to say goodbye to my friends!
Santa came early to our house and then we went to our hometowns for Christmas in Mr. B's new truck and made it safely without any collisions, deer or otherwise. My favorite parts of Christmas are the quiet, cozy moments spent in the company of the people we love, and also the moments filled with wild laughter.
Little K very patiently spent two days helping me run errands and set up my station at the salon. I am proud of how everything looks and am so excited to restart my career!
We ended the year, per usual with our favorite friends yet again. Though we wish they would live closer, we are thankful for the moments we get to have with them. I cherish the late nights spent laughing over board games, and hearing the laughter of kids fill our home. It was a perfect way to say goodbye to 2016.
|My sweet baby boy!|
|Harry Potter party|
|These crazy boys were a hoot!|
|A sweet moment while the crazy boys played laser tag.|
|Christmas chalkboard doodles.|
|Finding the humor|
|A doodle for my brother-in-law.|
|Last day at the vet clinic.|
|Jammies from Santa|
|Little K and the men in Mr. B's family|
|My sweet little family.|
|Little K and his cousin playing Speak Out|
|Merry Christmas you filthy animal!|
|All set up and ready to go!!|
|Laser tag and arcade day!|
|The confetti cookie dough ball was a huge hit!|
And now it's 2017. I'm not a huge proponent of the whole New Year, New You mindset; I'm more of a New Year, Same Me kind of girl... and I'm at a place where I feel pretty good about that. That being said, I have a few goals moving forward that I feel will help me live a healthier and happier life. Those goals are to do my best to embody kindness, to focus on that word in everything I do; to stop negative-self talk; and to minimize my belongings.
I hope to if I catch myself thinking and speaking negatively about myself, I can turn the negative thoughts around (ie: "I hate my stomach" turns to "This stomach held safe my child while he grew in my womb). I hope that if I am itching to purchase something I don't need, I can focus on needs instead of wants, and help myself understand what is driving my need to buy something new. Of course I would love to lose weight and exercise, and hopefully I can find a way to do that without making it about punishing myself. Because, right now, I want to surround myself with kindness and positivity and good vibes. I hope the same for you in 2017.
Thank you for keeping me In Good Company.